February kindof love
- Steph Wright
- Feb 11, 2024
- 5 min read
Dear February,
Where do I start? It started 6 years ago, 2/11/2018. A wave that would change the course of history. A wave that would change my life forever and everyone in it. I’m sorry! Truly! But he waved! What was I suppose to do? Ignore him? How could I? This guy was such an amazing friend 12 years earlier. Why did it end? What happened?
Well I had to find out! Curious me! It was Chris, Big Oak! OKill as the disc golf community knew him. He would kill it on that course, any course. That's how I met him. I've never seen a more graceful top player than him. He was amazing to watch. One time he was on crutches, flip flops, and aced it. I mean he was amazing. Just beautiful to watch.
On Sunday evening, I found him on Facebook, and added him as a friend. I had to find out where he was and how he was doing. I went to bed and woke up not long after with a wave from him. Smiles. I instantly woke up, he had added me back and waved. He was awake and we talked all night long. The next day we reunited after 12 long years apart.
A few short days later I would board a plane to Houston, my hometown, to see my daddy for the last time. man was that hard. I cant talk about that right now. That's for another blog another day.
It was hard being away but I was excited to return home and get to spend some more time with Chris. He invited me on a date, we went to a little bar in SLC and had some great food. Got to dance and spend sometime talking. The next day I invited him over to see my place down in Springville and that day everything was different. I invited him to stay. I had a big ole place, several rooms. From that day on our journey started together.
Any relationship being friends, family, lovers, couples, its hard! There are ups and downs and trying to find your way in life together can be tricky. This was new for us. There were things I have never felt before. Never experienced before. Things I had seen, that I have never seen before. This was not human! He was not human, hehe He was amazing. Yes with good traits and bad flaws. Just like me. But we synced almost exactly. Immediately that love as friends came rushing back for both of us. We couldn't get enough of each other. We both started to change, and for the better. We wanted to be better for each other and for our self's. And our new life's began.
December 8th we woke up to my daughter calling. She was calling to wish me a Happy Birthday. She sang to me. We talked. And all of a sudden, Chris says he wants to marry me and ask Abbie if that was ok? Abbie was so excited, or so she seemed to be. He asked me and I said YES. SHOCKED! I thought it was a joke. But he thought this was so special and what a cool way to spend my day. So we got up, packed and went to Vegas. Got married. Now getting married in Vegas is something you can never unsee! Something you will always remember. No Elvis didn't marry us, but that would have been fun too! Sitting in the waiting area waiting patiently for our turn, sitting next to each other, smiling, joking around like we always did, making jokes, laughing so loudly. He got serious, straight face and asked me to call my dad, Papa. I asked why? He said I need to talk to him before we do this. I called my dad and in the midst of their conversation, tears started running down my cheeks. He was talking to my dad, telling him how he felt about me and asking him for his permission to marry me. My dad said yes. I don't think there was a dry eye from anyone on that call that night. So its now our turn, are we ready, this was fast. We walked back and met with our guy and away we went. As this guy is talking to us and doing his talk, I looked over at my soon to be husband and tears are streaming down his cheeks as were mine. We gazed into each others eyes, I don't think I heard anything this guy was saying, I was feeling on top of the world. I don't think I have ever quite felt what I was feeling ever before. We were husband and wife. Chris and I! Chris! I stood there looking at him wondering how did this happen, how did I get so lucky. God did this! God knew we were meant to be together at that time in our life's and knew we needed each other. Not just anytime but that time. And here we were giving ourselves to each other.
We spent the next 5 months enjoying life as a married couple. Exploring that new world together. Planning our life together. We welcomed our first grandson into the world. And Chris was the happiest and best Papa to Oliver. We even got to take a trip back to Memphis and I got to meet his daughter, Hannah. So FUN!!!! But then he got sick, then one weekend came in May that landed Chris in the Provo Hospital, which he would not come home from. He passed away from Liver Failure on 5/18/2019 at the young age of 39. Part of my heart went with him that morning. Part of my soul left with him that day. Apart of my whole being went him that day.
July 1st 2021, my daughter Abbie, my mother in law Suzanne and brother in law Adam, went to the Mt Timpanogos Temple in American Fork and I was sealed to my husband and daughter for eternity. That day I saw my sweet husband many times in the Temple. I felt I was in Heaven with him. It was a very special, magical, spiritual day. A day I can not wait to reunite with my baby again.
Its been 5 years this May since he has left this world. My grief is different everyday. Its hard. Painful. Somedays unbearable. But I am so grateful for that Sunday night that we were brought back together. I know there was a reason, a purpose and a meaning for us both. And we get to spend forever together laughing, joking, long talks, long walks and loving on everyone around us.
I love you Monkey! I miss you more than words could ever accurately describe. You truly are my human and I cant wait to see you again. Here's to our day that day so long ago! I remember just like it was yesterday.
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